Raising a Daughter as a Stay at Home Mom

Sometimes I worry that my being a stay at home mom is doing her some kind of disservice.

Like my, “Stella, go out into the world and kick some major ass” doesn’t match my actions.

Stay at home moms, please don’t get me wrong.  This gig is majorly important, and hard, and it’s what I love. Am beyond thankful that I have the opportunity to be one.  I’ve wanted to “mom” for as long as I can remember. And I don’t want to downplay whatsoever the importance of what I {and so many moms} do. It’s both a sacrifice and a privilege.

And if that is what Stella chooses to do someday, I am all in for her on that one.  BUT, I want her to know, and to seriously believe, that she is capable of whatever she wants. A CEO, doctor or nurse, fashion designer or teacher.  A professional baseball player {my dream until the 6th grade}, a banker or a party planner.

Here at home, in these last few months, I’ve finally felt like I am coming up for air a little in the “raising babies” department.  It’s been 5 1/2 years straight for feedings and crawling and nap time routines and baby gates and getting into everything and putting everything in our mouths…and I can feel that season lifting. It’s have me thinking a lot about who and what I want to be as these babies of mine enter their school years.

And so I’ve really taken to blogging.  I live in a small town with somewhat limited employment options.  But this blog…it has given me an outlet, a way to feel slightly productive, and a way to share…which I’ve come to find is what I am truly passionate about.  I can be creative, be open…and my parents are enjoying the fact that my degree in Fashion hasn’t totally gone to waste. Ha!

I know you can’t call it a business…or a career…or anything really…YET.  But I have big dreams for it.  And as silly or whimsy as it may seem, it takes this non-tech savvy girl many hours to make a single post.  I try to find short snippets of the day, when the kids aren’t needing me {I just laughed out loud as I typed that}, or after they go to sleep, in which I can attack it and “work”.

So today, Stella asked to use my computer, and I showed her how to type a note.

She pulled her baby right up beside her and got to typing her “blog”.

Managing both her blog and her baby, side by side.

I knew then that she pays such close attention to our days and our time.  She totally sees me.  I think she sees both the Mom, and also the Person, that I am.

And I also realized it’s not so much about having a “job” outside the home that makes you a force to be reckoned with in the world, or even the number of dollars you throw into your bank account…it’s about finding what it is that makes you happy, giving it all you’ve got, and ideally leaving the world a little better than you found it.

So, hi. I’m Kristin Gill, the gal behind GrowingUpGill.  Kicking ass daily {also getting my ass kicked daily ;-P} in my own home as a mom, and trying to share a little love on the world wide web when I get the chance.

A big,huge,monstrous thank you, seriously to those of you who have been following along at GrowingUpGill.com.  Thank you to my hubs, who gets only half my attention a lot of evenings as I am trying to figure out whatever went wrong on my computer…but who still believes and encourages me in this adventure. And a third big fat thank you to those gal pals of mine who continue to encourage, and cheer me {and my big dreams} on.

Planning on taking things up a notch in 2017.

Maybe even two notches if my kids will start napping again…

Hugs and Happy New Year’s Eve Eve! You all rock.

xoxo

10 thoughts on “Raising a Daughter as a Stay at Home Mom

  1. Emily

    I grew up with a stay at home mom who had put her masters in business to the side to raise not only her kids, but also her nephews when they so needed it. Seeing my mom every day and the 18 million tasks she had to do and manage every single day has given me the strong work ethic I have to day. I count my blessings every day that I was lucky enough to have a mom who could stay home with me. I know it’s tough to feel like you aren’t “successful” because you stay home but I have no doubt that Stella will kick ass and be whatever she wants to be because she had a kick ass mom as an example. Thank you for sharing your life with us, the good the bad and the ugly and may you and your family have a very happy new year.

  2. Tegan Elliott

    Hi! I just started following you. I have a small connection to Dexter, I am Shannon Wright’s sister-in-law, and I have many friends from Dexter. I am also a stay at home mom. I had three kids in four years and I am a former teacher. I relate to everything you post! I also struggle with identity and making my way in the world. You are doing a great job and life is all about making priorities. We can have it all but maybe we can’t have it all at the exact same time? Life is full of seasons and phases. We will get our chance…but for now our priorities are much more WE than ME. You are doing a great job and I love your posts and ability to balance so much! Stella has a great role model!

  3. Erika Slaughter

    I have no doubt that all three of your kiddos are watching every move you make and will one day be thanking YOU for all your sacrifices! You’re doing great, Mama!

    1. Mary

      You rock as a mom….and a daughter!! Stella will, and you are, leaving a positive footprint on this planet!! ?

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  5. Pam Travis

    Kristin I love reading your blog! Although my kiddos are grown (the twins turned 21 this summer) your snippets and stories bring me back to a magical time in my life. I also stayed home to raise my 3 kids, and although a teachers retirement fund would be a great thing, I would never do it differently. Time you never get back. You will eventually find time to do your own thing. For now, share the love with your family, and please keep writing!
    Xoxo
    P.s. As your old first grade teacher I would like to think I taught you to write? Lol!!

  6. Nicole Mathsi

    I was a nurse for five years before becoming a SAHM. People laughed at me when j said all I’d ever really wanted to be was a wife and mother. But I feel like I’ve accomplished more in the last year and a half at home with my son than I did those five years working outside the home. Now, it’s been almost a month since my husband died, and I’m forced with the reality that I’ll need to return to work soon. It’s heartbreaking, because I’ll miss all the moments (good, bad and crazy) with Elijah. So cheers to you for being a SAHM- one I look up to though we’ve never officially met. Keep blogging, it’s helped me out a ton on my journey to becoming the best mama I can be 🙂

  7. Nicole Mathis

    I was a nurse for five years before becoming a SAHM. People laughed at me when j said all I’d ever really wanted to be was a wife and mother. But I feel like I’ve accomplished more in the last year and a half at home with my son than I did those five years working outside the home. Now, it’s been almost a month since my husband died, and I’m forced with the reality that I’ll need to return to work soon. It’s heartbreaking, because I’ll miss all the moments (good, bad and crazy) with Elijah. So cheers to you for being a SAHM- one I look up to though we’ve never officially met. Keep blogging, it’s helped me out a ton on my journey to becoming the best mama I can be 🙂

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